You’ve Got It Bad
i Don’t Get It Enough
Part 2: You’ve Got It Bad
Alcoholics like to spew the truth but recovering alcoholics have found it. Ex-addicts know more about life than any guru Buddhist philosopher genius i’ve ever met.
That said, there are a couple cliches i hear regularly i don’t agree with, probably because i haven’t been in the program long enough to get yet. If any of you guys can shed some light to help me along my way, i’d sure appreciate it.
Thing # 2: I Thought I Had It Bad Until…
ex. “I thought I had it bad until I met a guy who was born without an asshole in diarrhea land.”
Meaning: Other people’s hardships prove mine aren’t worth drinking over.
What i Don’t Get Enough: Stories of someone whose life suffering is much greater than our own are used to show us we don’t have it so bad that we should get drunk over it. Others have stayed sober through worse, you should too.
i don’t get this argument because 1) that someone is experiencing worse pain than mine makes my pain neither easier nor better. My agony is still the exact same no matter what you’re going through.
More importantly 2) Comparing yourself to others is a dangerous game that is generally discouraged in recovery. More specifically, sure, some people have it worse than me and don’t drink, but there are also some who suffer less than me and drink nonetheless. i need to stop basing my life on others’, and become responsible for my own.
Just a reminder that i’m on vacation in a place that has very limited internet access and so i won’t be able to respond to comments with my usual ruthless efficiency. Please don’t think i’m not reading them (i most definitely am), and please continue to leave them (they make my day).
Posted on August 10, 2012, in Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholism, Lessons in Recovery, Recovery and tagged AA, alcohol, Alcohol Recovery, alcoholic, Alcoholics Anonymous, alcoholism, mental-health, recovering alcoholics, Recovery, sobriety, What i learned in AA. Bookmark the permalink. 16 Comments.