My regrets to inform you
First off, a huge “Thanks” to those of you who read and commented and sent me good vibes about my last post. Your suggestions really helped put me on the right track. As did a nice talk with my sponsor.
But before i get into that, let me just say i think i was a little misleading in that post. If i came across as a guy wallowing in guilt over my past mistakes, this isn’t the case. i did stupid things when i was drinking and sobriety has given me the clarity to see just how messed up some of those things were. i’m pretty good about ‘Respecting the Past‘ and i have a lot of tools that help me make a mental adjustment when i need to.
The question i popped in that last post was more of a question of semantics, and that’s how i presented it to my Sponsor last night.
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
That quote is from the AA Promises and i thought i must be doing something wrong if i still had regrets. My Sponsor, basically, told me this is more of an ideal goal to shoot for, but not achievable for everyone. What’s important is not necessarily eliminating regrets, but more not letting them control me. And i’m cool with that.
i also mentioned my guilt over not being a better parent in the past, though i realized thinking that thought is a dangerous monster to feed. My Sponsor reminded me that every day i’m sober is one more day of “the past” that my children can look back on and remember and think, “Dad did the right thing today.” And it’s more recent to boot, fresher in their minds.
So thanks again, everyone, and here’s a dry toast to kissing regrets goodbye!
Posted on July 22, 2013, in Alcoholism, Lessons in Recovery, Recovery, Uncategorized and tagged AA Promises, alcohol, Alcohol Regrets, alcoholic, no regrets, Recovery, Regrets, sobriety, Sponsor, What i learned in AA. Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.