Drinking is no Adventure and Sobriety isn’t Boring

Used 2014-05-06 Live the Adventure (AlKHall sobriety recovery)

Live the Adventure

The theme of my AA home group meeting is “Adventures in Sobriety”. Initially, i was kind of uncomfortable with this topic because i was afraid the meetings would only remind me of how my once adventurous drinking life had devolved into a tepid pool of boredom.

Speaking at the meeting the other night, however, i realized this is a pile of Schlitz. i did not have many adventures when i was drinking, i had drama. Getting in a drunk driving accident, receiving an eviction notice and attempting suicide are not adventures to be relished, they are enormous screw ups in my rearview mirror that are getting smaller all the time. Good riddance!

On the other hand, exploring my city, writing daily, trying things i’ve never done before (cooking, education, journalism…), remembering my vacations… these are the true adventures of my life, and they’ve only just begun.

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About Al K Hall

Like a battered drinker or a punch drunk boxer, i am here for another round. For those of you who don’t know me, i’m a semi-professional writer on the rocks and a non-practicing alcoholic (if after 30 years of practicing, you still can't do something well, it's best to just give it up). For those of you who do know me, thanks for stopping by anyway and where’s the ten bucks you owe me? Welcome to my Bar None. A hole in the wall where we can hang out and trade the kind of stories you swap only when you’ve had one too many and either can’t find your way home or are afraid to. Hell, it’s cheaper than therapy and plus the pictures are prettier. Here we’ll crack open bottles and jokes and ‘last call’ are the only dirty words you’ll never hear. Pull up a stool and make yourselves at home. http://about.me/AlKHall

Posted on May 6, 2014, in Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholism, Lessons in Recovery, Recovery, Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.

  1. I like that image of these things being in the rear view mirror getting smaller…that is how I feel too, Al. And you’re right – we didn’t have these laissez-faire, fairweather, capricious to-do’s…we had full on drama. Crappy stuff. The type that takes others down the drain with us. Strangers and loved ones alike. Embarassing nasty stuff. Drama. And as you said, adventures is what I have now – trips with the family, exploring new things in life, etc.

    Thank you for illuminating this, Al. Awesome !

    paul

  2. I heard someone use a similar analogy once at a meeting… some wisearse-oldtimer just said. “Objects in the Rear View Mirror May Appear Closer than They Are” … ;-) I like both thoughts.
    You mention cooking… now I rarely, if ever tried to cook when I drank. Every now and then I’d maybe do a stirfry or the BBQ but generally it was a disaster with me screaming and shouting at me, the cooker, the world, my family… It wasn’t worth the stress. Today I often cook, probably about 50/50 in the house it is me cooking. I love to cook Chinese, Indian and the odd roast etc. Far less stress and shouting – funny nothing has physically changed… just me and my attitude and appetite to be ok on the edge of my comfort zone

    • Further on!

      i almost never cooked either. Pasta and burgers or whatever, but nothing really. Now i’m having a blast inventing my own recipes and some of them are dubious (pasta burgers) and some of them rock (hot dog pizza!).

      Keep coming back,

      AL K Hall

  3. Adventure definition-
    noun – an unusual and exciting, typically hazardous, experience or activity
    verb – engage in hazardous and exciting activity, especially the exploration of unknown territory

    This song could define the adventure of my past drinking days which are now thankfully fading further and further into the distance – I still like the song however.

    Thanks Al. I appreciate your post and the comments.

    • Whistler!

      Oh there are tons of drinking songs i still get a kick out of. As long as i only get a buzz from the music, it’s all good. As for the adventure, “the exploration of unknown territory” sums it up pretty well for me. Sobriety and the gifts it offers are virgin territory i’m having the time of my life exploring!

      Keep coming back,

      Al K Hall

  4. You have an amazing attitude about sobriety!

  5. Love this! I used to cook and do all those things but I would rush through the day just so I could put the kids to bed and start drinking. What a waste of the small amount of time we have with our children. Fortunately I didn’t do that for very long but…I still wasted a shitload of time waiting to drink.

    And dude! Where DO you find these pictures!

    Sherry

  6. It’s so true. It’s way more fun to be PRESENT for life and remember what I say and do. No guilt, no shame like before. I love your post because I agree, sobriety is not boring!

  7. The difference between drama and adventure is staggering, and you’re right, drinking rarely resulted in adventures, at least not for me. I don’t miss the stupid things I would do and I thank my guardian angel (who seriously worked overtime) for keeping me safe. I’d always wanted adventures but it wasn’t until I stopped drinking that I think I could really handle them. Within months of getting sober we moved to another country. Now *that’s* an adventure … and I never woulda been able to handle it without skipping the booze. Thanks for bringing this up. It think it’s really important to remember that difference. Nicely written :)

  8. The biggest and greatest lesson I’ve learned as an alcoholic is that I’m not a special snowflake. Many people. dead and living, have walked the same path I’m walking on.

    • And yet we’re here to tell the tale, and that’s the best thing we can do for those who are lost on their paths and still suffering. Thanks for your visit, brother.

      Keep coming back,

      Al K Hall

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